Does infertility have you in a stranglehold?

Does infertility have you in a stranglehold?

Does infertility have you in a stranglehold?

Here’s how to tell. 

Your days seem to consist only of thinking about fertility, making plans, researching treatments, or simply thinking about how to solve the fertility “problem”. When you bring your head up for a breath, it seems  there’s nothing else going on in your life.  Building your family is ALL that is going on.

Your body and mind start feeling as if they are in a vice grip – more attention to that feeling turns the vice even more. 

Pretty soon your whole identity is centered on being INFERTILE, getting pregnant.  It’s something that you know you want to change, but just can’t.

This is neither supportive of your fertility nor your ability to simply enjoy day-to-day life.

Does this describe you? 

Let’s get you out of that stranglehold. 

Steps to release the stranglehold:

1. Spend as much time tending to your mental health as you do your physical health.
   
   In the midst of infertility it is easy to get hyper focused on what needs to happen inside of your body.
   
   And yet, when pregnancy doesn’t happen, over and over again, or when your days are packed with supplements and exercise and yoga and scheduling doctors appointments and researching options and making plan b,c,d,and e…worry, anxiety, depression, fear, worry and will find a way to creep in.
   
   Have tools at the ready to combat these emotions both proactively and in the moment so they don’t take you down and out.
   
2. Find your way of stepping back into trust.
   
   So much trust is lost in this process. Trust in your body. Trust in Divinity. Trust in the medical field. Trust in your relationships. Trust in your ability to have what you want. Trust in yourself and your ability to make decisions that lead to what you want.
   
   The most powerful way I have discovered to rebuild trust in the middle of something as life changing as infertility  s to deepen my understanding of myself as a Soul and to create a new relationship with Divinity.
   
   Not an overnight fix (and there’s more to say about it than a simple paragraph in a newsletter).
   
   And – when you take this route, not only is there is a vast amount of trust just waiting to support you, but you will also learn how to hear and follow inspired guidance. You no longer have to come up with all the answers
   
3. Build in new connections
   
   Infertility is isolating in so many ways. Friends’ lives move on. You feel stuck in place. You are the “odd” one out (I had a client whose family assigned dishes to the “non-mothers” every Mother’s Day. Talk about isolating).
   
   Isolation can lead to more focus on trying to fix your infertility; and the stranglehold increases.
   
   What non-fertility activities can you start to include in your day-to-day life?
   
4. Learn how to “let go” in a new way
   
   Letting go is not about giving up. Letting go is not about releasing your desire for a family.
   
   Letting go is about becoming aware of and releasing the internal narratives that keep you pushing and striving and MAKING things happen. This is the hard road to baby.
   
   Letting go is about learning how to receive what you want.
   
5. Ask for help.
   
   You do not need to do this alone. You deserve support.

None of these steps are instantaneous solutions. However, each small, simple step that you take will create a change in how you feel which in turn will shift your internal fertility.

To learn about Anji options for each of these steps, schedule some time on my calendar. There are options that range from meditation and guided imagery recordings to one-on-one sessions.

Let’s get you out of the stranglehold.